We finally made it back to our old condo to get some of our things that we left behind when we did our move last January. These included the ceiling fan lamp, one of the very first things we bought as a couple when we moved into the condo in January of 2007, three buildings away and three floors down too from the condo unit where I have been living alone for three years. It also included our fins, snorkel and mask sets, as Ryan and I both have our own. I got mine at a really discounted price from the resort back when I was living in El Nido in 2005. Since El Nido Resorts order their equipment by the bulk, they of course getdiscounts. I and all the other teachers included our orders in theirs so we could get a discount too. The diving-worthy fins came in three colors: black, blue and green. I didn’t mind what color mine was so I got the green. (Though if I had my way, I would have opted for flaming pink or flirtatious purple.) Ryan got his from a dive shop along Julia Vargas Ave. in Ortigas sometime two or three years later. It was double the price of mine though. I also got about fifteen of my cassette tapes. Yes, cassette tapes. Those words remind me of the days of betamax and

VHS along with once a week trips to Video City. I had intended to get one or two, particularly one by Wendy Matthews because she had a “Happy Day” version that I was reminded of when I saw License to Wed on HBO last week. I also wanted to get my Now and Then OST because I wanted to listen to songs there by The Monkees and The Jackson 5.

While I was going through my stuff which I still have considerably a lot in there, like almost all of my books, DVDs, rolls of film and CDs. I came across my Serendipity OST and was pleasantly surprised that I still have my Serendipity VCD.

serendipity movie poster

I have seen this movie so many times but I always feel the same way about it. I am not entirely sure that I am a romantic at heart but the thoughts of soul mates and destiny have always been on my mind.

There are so many things I love about this movie. For one, it has wonderful soundtrack. Another is that one of my favorite books by one of my favorite South American writers, Gabriel Garcia Marquez’s Love in The Time of Cholera plays an important part in the movie. I am not really a John Cusack fan but I certainly love Kate Beckinsale. Bridget Moynahan, who I thought was really sexy when I first saw her in Coyote Ugly and has quite fascinated me for a time, also plays a small role in it.

The movie over-all is cheesy, as romantic-comedies generally are, but all these little things in the movie just touch me.

Serendipity is the effect by which one accidentally discovers something fortunate, especially while looking for something else entirely.”

Perhaps my affinity with this film is the fact that I have always been looking for something. I always somehow felt there was something out there that would make me whole. I have always been running here and there and almost everywhere, chasing after an idea, an experience, a feeling, perhaps an object, but not necessarily a person, that would finally tell me, “This is it. This has been what I have been looking for all along.”

Some of us spend our lives looking yet never finding. I have been one of those fortunate human beings who have been able to and for that, I am grateful. I am at peace… and most importantly I am whole.

What are soul mates?

Soul mate is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality and/or compatibility….

A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul – which is thought to be the ultimate soul mate, the one and only other half of one’s soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join.”

I have always believed in soul mates. I have read once in a book somewhere (now hidden away in some library or perhaps a used bookstore or simply in the clutters of the many places I have unfortunately made some sort of home in in the constant search for that idea, that experience, that feeling or that object but not necessarily a person) that a person in this world may have more than one soul mate. I have spent my life counting those soul mates in the fingers of my hands, and they take the shape of father, brother, friend, but in one serendipitous event, I have finally found that one thing – the embodiment of that idea, that experience, that feeling, that I have been searching for.

The world is a big place and it has billions of people in it. What are the chances of finding your one true twin soul, in the many races, nooks and crannies of this planet we call Earth? What are the chances of twin souls being at one place at the same time? What are the chances of their realizing that what they have been searching for is standing right there on the opposite side of some bar in a restaurant in some little town?

Unlike in movies, the real world does not always provide for happy endings.

It would have been simpler if you could put your life on hold until you have found that person, but lives have to be lived. Food has to be put on the table, money has to be made, careers have to be established and children have to be born. The world does not stop for anyone and you keep on living.

When you finally find that one person, and you realize you are twenty years too late, what do you do? You don’t and you can’t just turn your back on the life you have been living. The only thing you can do is ask, “I have finally found what I have been looking for all my life… Now is that enough?”


Serendipity Soundtrack:

  • Never a Day – Wood

  • Moonlight Kiss – Bap Kennedy

  • January Rain – David Gray

  • Waiting in Vain – Annie Lennox

  • The Distance – Evan & Jaron

  • Like Lovers Do – Heather Nova

  • When You Know – Shawn Colvin

  • Northern Sky – Nick Drake

  • Cool Yule – Louis Armstrong

  • This Year – Chantal Kreviazuk

  • (There’s) Always Something There to Remind Me – Brian Witman

  • 83 – John Mayer

  • Fast Forward – Alan Silvestri

  • Someone Like You – Van Morrison

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